Let this post be about Luuurve!

Tomorrow is February 14...so Happy Valentines!

Contrary to my last year's post about Valentines being just a regular day, or as my friend Frankie used to say last year: “They call it Valentine’s; I call it Tuesday.” Let this be a post about Luuuurve.

The becky Queen Divine Lee, blogged about this and I really waited for the whole video to download. I’m not gay/lesbian or anything, but something about this video touched me and I’ll tell you why.

If the talks about settling down, getting married makes one engaged, then I must have been engaged at least three times already. When I was 23, people thought I’d get hitched. After all, my then beau, was all about having kids and I was already travelling 12 hours just to see him. But I knew he wasn’t the one for me. We have different visions, different dreams, and different values, though honestly, he is a lot nicer compared to me. Bottom line, I didn’t see us going down the aisle for I can see that when love between us no longer exists, the respect, who I think will be the last remaining glue, just isn’t there anymore. I have exerted the most effort in that relationship, but it had been the easiest one for me to let go of and get over with just because I honestly knew it wasn’t really meant to be.

“You’re the only one I know who gets a boyfriend that don’t really want to spend your future with him” a friend told me years ago.  Truth is, few years ago, I started believing and finally getting what happily married people has been telling me: you’ll just know.

I have secretly shed a tear when one of my bffs got hitched last year. Not because she’s getting married, or officially in a permanent relationship. I have learned to separate the hype. For my own wedding, I used to think that I really couldn’t care less, as long as I am sure with the one I am marrying with- Because I think that’s the hardest part.

Few months earlier, after our friends got hitched, my guy friends and I were talking over lunch one day. Since most of our friends are finally settling down, it got them into thinking that maybe, they should start straightening up their acts. I am not going to divulge in this blog about the depth of what we have talked about because it’s one of the cherished guys-talk-with-one-girl moments that we have, but when  I joked about how I wanted my wedding to be themed “Elope” and that I’d just invite them one day over lunch or dinner and announce that I had just gotten hitched.I got nagging, violent reactions saying that they can only accept that I didn’t invite them to my wedding... only if it’s done abroad.

So I guess no more Carrie Bradshaw-John James Preston City Hall Elope themed wedding for moi.

The reaction was violent and sweet, I felt like the youngest and only sister with all these big brothers picking on me. Love ‘em.

Now going back to Divine Lee’s post about Love knows no gender, I watched it and I finally I understood why the presence of both families and friends during the day of your official union together is so special. I finally understood, because I know since our society doesn’t approve of gay marriage, I just felt so happy for this couple that they have the support of both of their families…and the criticisms just don’t matter.

Clinton & Callum from Soda Films on Vimeo.

Happy Valentine’s day and may we always, bravely, love, like our hearts will never be broken.